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What I've been teaching people for over 15 years is this (and it's in my Defusing Hostile Customers Workbook).
There are actually two kinds of people. There are the venters who actually benefit from venting, because they quickly let go of the negative feelings.
Then there are the hoarders, who, the more the focus on the bad feelings/insult/ etc the more upset they become. These folks need to distract themselves.
It's all consistent with the principle I teach: "What you focus on your get more of"
Getting stuck in a negative moment is so damaging. I could not agree more - you get what you focus on. So it's best to focus on all of our good fortune.
This is so true yet so hard. I work on this constantly and the times I am more successful, I am certainly happier -- and a bit proud of myself, since it is so challenging.
I agree, Annette. It is hard to change the habit because it can feel satisfying to complain - really satisfying. But it feels even better to leave the negative incident behind us and focus the good stuff. Thanks for taking the time to comment.
I'd agree with that.
I find that I have to give myself 5 minutes to let off steam and I ask others to give me that 5 minutes only to let them know it's not about them.
What's really tough is the long rough road we've all been through the past 18 months. I've found release through art and design but that only goes so far...
You're so fortunate to be so talented. A creative outlet can be so soothing. These past 18 months have been very challenging, but it's worth finding a way through it.
Beth
PS I love your 5 minute rule. Emotions subside quickly, if you take a moment.
Hi Beth!
First time on your blog and I love your video tips!
I tell ya, the amount of whining and complaining has got to stop. It's just a cancer. 5 minute rule is good, and being more cognizant of one's complaining is also good.
Hope to see you around more often! I'll have to take more time reading more of your posts.
If you are ever in San Francisco, I'd love to buy you a drink.
Best,
Sam
I really appreciate you taking the time to watch and read my posts. We're all busy, so I take it as a tremendous compliment. My nephew lives in SF so I'll let you know when I'm heading up next time.
Sounds good Beth! DM or e-mail me when you plan to come up. Some fun wine bars and lounges in SF.
Best, Sam